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Love hurts…

Everyone says love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. Love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt. ~ Creation by Jessica Gilbert

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Save yourself some hurt feelings and practice LOVE in every form.

Find ways to feel loved and cover up the pain of the past.

Let yourself feel wonderful again.

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If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information, or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love
Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

Copyright © 2019 Linda L Young

Be the person…

Be the person who breaks the cycle.
If you were judged, choose understanding. If you were rejected, choose acceptance. If you were shamed, choose compassion. Be the person you needed when you were hurting, not the person who hurt you. Vow to be better than what broke you – to heal instead of becoming bitter so you can act from your heart, not your pain. ~StrongMind

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It is always a good idea to improve yourself. Breaking old patterns of abuse and uncaring shows a real desire for healthy living.

Fighting back against hate means finding more love and replacing hateful things with loving things.

The easier you can forgive the sooner you can be free of the painful past.

That doesn’t mean that you will forget the things that were done, but it does mean that you choose to take a different path. One of a higher vibration and mindful effort.

Choose LOVE instead of other options and change the old patterns of hate and unacceptance to those of understanding and unconditional acceptance.

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If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information, or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love
Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

Copyright © 2019 Linda L Young

Change and healing…

Change and healing…

Change

doesn’t have to be hard, and healing doesn’t have to hurt.

Surely by now you know that every thing happens for a reason!

There is something better awaiting you on the other side of this.
— Iyanla Vanzant

Book: SimpleRemindersBook.com

 

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If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information, or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love
Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

Copyright © 2019 Linda L Young

Love…

Love…

 

Love comes to those who

still hope after

disappointment, who still

believe after betrayal,

and who still love after

they’ve been hurt.

 

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Whether you’ve been hurt

or betrayed by someone,

you have to regroup

before you can try to love again.

 

Sometimes it takes a few weeks,

sometimes it takes years.

 

Some people never recover.

 

They let the hurt, betrayal and disappointment

be their story for the rest of their life.

 

If you are strong enough

and believe in yourself,

you know that someone else’s wrong doing

is theirs to own up to.

 

It’s not your bad,

so why condemn yourself into a life

with NO LOVE.

 

Get back up and try again.

 

Just be careful that you don’t attract

the same kind of person over and over.

 

Watch for the signs and don’t ignore them

just because you care about some one.

 

That doesn’t mean that they care about you.

Let them prove it by their actions,

or learn to LOVE yourself

enough to not care

what anyone else does.

 

 

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If you need help raising your energy level,

or vibration, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information,

or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

 

Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day,

and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

 

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love
Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

 

 

Copyright © 2018 Linda L Young

 

 

 

Rules For My Daughter…

Rules For My Daughter:

1. Don’t knock it ’til you try it.
2. Send Thank You cards for every act of hospitality – except another Thank You card.
3. Travel light through life. Keep only what you need.
4. Put cinnamon in your coffee, and twice as much when you miss me.
5. It’s okay to cry when you’re hurt. It’s also okay to smash things; but, wash your face, clean your mess, and get up off the floor when you’re done. You don’t belong down there.
6. If you’re going to curse, be clever. If you’re going to curse in public, know your audience.
7. Seek out the people and places that resonate with your soul.
8. Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
9. 5-second rule. It’s just dirt.
10. Happiness is not a permanent state. Wholeness is. Don’t confuse these.
11. If you’re staying more than one night, unpack your bag.
12. Never walk through an alley.
13. Be less sugar, more spice, and only as nice as you’re able to without compromising yourself.
14. Can’t is a cop-out. Don’t want to is perfectly acceptable.
15. Hold your heroes to a high standard. Be your own hero.
16. If you can’t smile with your eyes, don’t smile. Insincerity is nothing to aspire to.
17. Never lie to yourself.
18. Your body, your rules.
19. If you have an opinion, you better know why.
20. Study your curiosities and practice your passions.
21. Ask for what you want.
22. Wish on stars and dandelions, then get to work.
23. Don’t skimp on good sheets.
24. Fall in love often. Particularly with ideas, art, music, literature, food, far-off places and four-leggeds.
25. Fall hard and forever in love with nothing but yourself.
26. Say Please, Thank You, and Pardon Me, whenever the situation warrants it.
27. Reserve I’m sorry for when you truly are.
28. Naps are for grown-ups, too.
29. Question everything except your own intuition.
30. You have enough. You are enough.
31. You are amazing! Don’t let anyone ever make you feel you are not. If someone does… walk away. You deserve better.

 

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Good advice shared by a friend on Facebook…

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If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration, or are interested in learning more about creative writing, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information, or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love

Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

 

 

 

Copyright © 2017 Linda L Young

Break the chain…

Break the chain…

 

Hurt people hurt people.

That’s how pain patterns

get passed on, generation

after generation.  Break the chain

today.  Meet anger with

sympathy, contempt with

compassion, cruelty with

kindness.  Greet grimaces

with smiles.  Forgive and

forget about finding fault.

Love is the weapon of the 

future.

 

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We are all shaped by our past experiences.

Our childhood has such an impact on us because those who were more powerful had control over us.

They enforced their thoughts and rules upon us whether they were fair to us or not.

  • They sometimes got angry and we were their target.
  • They sometimes got mean and we were their target.
  • They sometimes got cruel and we were their target.

 

In other words, they weren’t perfect at all.

They passed on the things that their parents and authority figures taught them.

They felt that they were in control and that they were responsible for you and your actions.

So they did the same things that others had done to them.  Perhaps they even added a little more enforcement to make sure that you would remember the “lesson”.

 

It takes looking at the past with new eyes of understanding to see what they may have intended for us.

To see that they were faulted and frail, human and hurt, themselves.

So they did the best they could at the time, and the fact that we ended up with less than a completely loving, enlightened parent was just a result of their past.

And that doesn’t justify the way we were treated, it doesn’t undo the hurt we felt.

It doesn’t justify unfair behavior at all.

 

But it does give us new choices as we learn to understand the position they were in at the time.

That we have the option of letting the past go and living a better feeling life

                 ~ right now ~

 

Of thinking about what we can do to treat others better in our life.

Of thinking about how we can treat others better every day.

Of thinking about why we want to treat others better in our life.

 

Breaking the chain of the past pain patterns.

 

Replacing the old way of thinking and doing

with new ways of expressing Sympathy and Compassion,

Kindness and Love.

 

Letting LOVE be the weapon of the future.

Replacing old patterns with new ones.

Ones that serve you and allow you to forget the past and everything bad that has happened to you

and live with peace, harmony and freedom today.

 

 

 

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If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration, or are interested in learning more about creative writing, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information, or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love

Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

 

 

 

Copyright © 2017 Linda L Young

Holding a grudge…

Holding a grudge…

“It can be hard to forgive and let go

but it’s important to remember

that harboring the resentment and

holding a grudge can hurt you

even more. The word “forgive”

really means to give something up

for yourself not for them.”

— Jack Canfield

 

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It just feels wrong to think about forgiving someone who “did you wrong”.

 

It doesn’t seem fair – after all :

  • they lied
  • twisted my words
  • took advantage of me
  • stole my ideas
  • hurt me
  • turned my friends against me
  • abandoned me
  • called me names
  • were purposely mean to me
  • cheated on me
  • lied about it
  • blamed me for it
  • made me look bad to my friends
  • deceived me
  • betrayed me
  • used me
  • broke their promises
  • squashed my trust
  • played me for a fool
  • pretended to love me

 

Does any of this sound familiar?

So after all of this purposely hurtful behavior – I am suppose to forgive them???

 

Basically – YES.

 

One thing that might help you is if you keep repeating to yourself some helpful affirmations:

  • That was then, this is now.
  • Let the past stay in the past.
  • It’s their bad, not mine.
  • Don’t let someone else’s bad behavior effect or Change my Good behavior.
  • Get over it
  • Keep it moving
  • Life goes on
  • So what
  • What ever
  • Oh well…

 

Try softening the way you feel about the person

or the people and the situation in question:

Say to yourself-

  • People can change
  • I can change
  • I can forgive so that I will feel better
  • Life is good
  • Everyone makes mistakes
  • I can find other friends
  • I can make better choices
  • Silly me
  • They are who they are
  • Who cares anyway
  • This is my life, I can live it however I want to

 

Life goes on…

Forgiving someone doesn’t mean that you forget who and what they are or what they did to hurt you.

That would be foolish on your part.

 

Because what someone does once – they will often do again and again.  It is who they are.

But you can change the way you feel about what happened.

 

Forgiving means that you basically “Let it go” to free yourself from the negative lingering emotions that are attached to this person. You get rid of the poisonous thinking of resentment.

Because you let yourself go free,

and then you are free.

 

Enjoy your life.  If people are mean to you just keep up your good work and draw different people to yourself.

The sooner you move on the more time you will have to experience more good people and events  for the rest of your life.

Be blessed and then go and bless others.

 

Life is what you make it.

 

 

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If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration, or are interested in learning more about creative writing, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information, or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love

Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

 

 

 

Copyright © 2017 Linda L Young

Someday, we’ll forget…

“Someday, we’ll forget the hurt, the reason we cried and who caused us pain. We will finally realize that the secret of being free is not revenge, but letting things unfold in their own way and own time. After all, what matters is not the first, but the last chapter of our life which shows how well we ran the race. So smile, laugh, forgive, believe and love all over again.”

Simple Reminders

 

If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration, or are interested in learning more about creative writing, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information, or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love

Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

 

Copyright © 2017 Linda L Young

When love is real

 

When love is real, it

doesn’t lie, cheat, pretend,

hurt you, or make you feel

unwanted.  It’s supposed to

ease your worries and give

you a sense of belonging.

 

 

If your relationship doesn’t make you feel wanted and loved deeply, maybe it isn’t REAL love after all.

People get together for a number of reasons.

 

If your partner is abusive or belittling instead of supportive and nurturing, it is time to look else where.

This type of relationship only gets worse in time.  Even if you feel obligated and are trying to help someone.

It’s time to think about yourself and what you need to learn and grow.

 

Life is too short to be with some one who makes you miserable in the mere name of LOVE or commitment.

Don’t buy into anything that is unauthentic.

Just move on – because as soon as some one like this finds someone else, someone new to take care of them – they will move on and leave you anyway, lying, cheating and pretending with someone else.

 

Save yourself the heartache of this type of narcissistic personality and find REAL love yourself!

Where you can feel loved and supported.

 

 

 

If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration, contact us here at “Linda L Young.com” for more information, or join our mailing list for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Copyright © 2017  Linda L Young