Holding a grudge…
“It can be hard to forgive and let go
but it’s important to remember
that harboring the resentment and
holding a grudge can hurt you
even more. The word “forgive”
really means to give something up
for yourself not for them.”
— Jack Canfield
It just feels wrong to think about forgiving someone who “did you wrong”.
It doesn’t seem fair – after all :
- they lied
- twisted my words
- took advantage of me
- stole my ideas
- hurt me
- turned my friends against me
- abandoned me
- called me names
- were purposely mean to me
- cheated on me
- lied about it
- blamed me for it
- made me look bad to my friends
- deceived me
- betrayed me
- used me
- broke their promises
- squashed my trust
- played me for a fool
- pretended to love me
Does any of this sound familiar?
So after all of this purposely hurtful behavior – I am suppose to forgive them???
Basically – YES.
One thing that might help you is if you keep repeating to yourself some helpful affirmations:
- That was then, this is now.
- Let the past stay in the past.
- It’s their bad, not mine.
- Don’t let someone else’s bad behavior effect or Change my Good behavior.
- Get over it
- Keep it moving
- Life goes on
- So what
- What ever
- Oh well…
Try softening the way you feel about the person
or the people and the situation in question:
Say to yourself-
- People can change
- I can change
- I can forgive so that I will feel better
- Life is good
- Everyone makes mistakes
- I can find other friends
- I can make better choices
- Silly me
- They are who they are
- Who cares anyway
- This is my life, I can live it however I want to
Life goes on…
Forgiving someone doesn’t mean that you forget who and what they are or what they did to hurt you.
That would be foolish on your part.
Because what someone does once – they will often do again and again. It is who they are.
But you can change the way you feel about what happened.
Forgiving means that you basically “Let it go” to free yourself from the negative lingering emotions that are attached to this person. You get rid of the poisonous thinking of resentment.
Because you let yourself go free,
and then you are free.
Enjoy your life. If people are mean to you just keep up your good work and draw different people to yourself.
The sooner you move on the more time you will have to experience more good people and events for the rest of your life.
Be blessed and then go and bless others.
Life is what you make it.
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Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!
Do what you LOVE.
and keep doing the things that make you happy!
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Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…
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