Tag Archive | Boundaries

Muting people…

Aug13

You can mute people in real life too.

It’s called boundaries. – source unknown

Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life

 · Setting healthy, clear boundaries are not for other people they are for your safety, guarding your inner peace, sanity, health, and happiness.
Remember it is not a punishment for others. They may feel that it is so it’s natural for them to miss the “old” you.
So remember if someone is not happy with how you choose to live your life, it is a sure sign that you need to take good care of yourself, continue reinforcing your boundaries, don’t take anything they do or say personally (because it’s about their perception).
Not everyone is meant to be in our lives to the end so when someone brings pain, suffering, and disrespect to your life, “adjust your life to their absence” and wish them well from afar. ❤️

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Very far…

Yes, there are times when even adult people need a “time out” from your life.

If they are disrespectful in any way, or perhaps get so bossy that you can’t stand them, go ahead and bid them farewell for a while.

It is your right to set your own tolerable BOUNDARIES.

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If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration,

contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information,

or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.


Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day,

and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!


Do what you LOVE.

Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!


Live – Laugh – Love


Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…


Copyright © 2021 Linda L Young

Real friends…

Apr3

You don’t lose real friends, real opportunities or real relationships when you start standing up for yourself and setting clear boundaries.

You lose abusers, manipulators, narcissists, control freaks, attention seekers and mental-health destroying leeches. ~ author unknown

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Standing up for yourself, and setting boundaries sets off alarms to those who were just keeping you for their convenience or using you in some other way.

They will try to turn every problem on you and say that you are controlling and manipulating them.

But what sweet relief you have when you finally get away from these social freaks and begin to breathe on your own again.

Everyone has issues, but no one should be required to live a miserable life themselves just to please someone else.

Real friends are possible to find once you have boundaries and enough self respect to attract and keep them.

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If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information, or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.


Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!


Do what you LOVE.

Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!


Live – Laugh – Love


Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…


Copyright © 2020 Linda L Young

They define you as…

Nov15

The moment you put a stop to people taking advantage of you and disrespecting you, is when they define you as difficult, selfish or crazy. Manipulators hate boundaries. ~ The enlightened Target

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If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information, or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.


Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!


Do what you LOVE.

Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!


Live – Laugh – Love


Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…


Copyright © 2019 Linda L Young

Lessons for Empaths…

Oct9

Lessons for Empaths…

5 tough lessons empaths must learn

  1. Take care of yourself first.  You can’t help others when you ae broken.
  2. Putting up boundaries may distress others.  Do it anyway.
  3. If a situation is painful, you must get out.
  4. Sometimes  you can’t help the one that you want to help.
  5. You can’t SAVE everyone.

~Moonrayne

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If you are an empath, or an empathetic person,

you will definitely resonate with the difficulty

in acknowledging and implementing these lessons.

Empaths are big hearted humans

that want to help everyone because they feel everything so deeply.

They know the pain you are going through because they can feel it themselves.

Sometimes they feel so much about other peoples needs,

they neglect their own needs and wants.

So if you are high on the empath scale

of caring about other people,

be sure to learn to take care of

your own self first. 

That way you

will have more to give

to others.

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If you need help raising your energy level,

or vibration, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information,

or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day,

and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love
Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

Copyright © 2018 Linda L Young

The spiritual journey…

Jun7

The spiritual journey…

 

And then I learned

the spiritual journey

had nothing to do with being nice.

It had to do

with being real and authentic.

Having boundaries.

Honoring and respecting my space first,

others second.

And in this space of self-care,

being nice just happened, it flowed…

not motivated by fear,

but by LOVE.

~ Michelle Olak

 

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Many people confuse “being nice”

with having boundaries.

 

They think that they have to do everything

everyone wants them to do

and say so that they will feel like they are

being NICE enough.

 

This is not authentic or real, however,

and ends up being phony.

 

To continue your spiritual journey,

you must honor and respect your

sacred space.

 

Fill it with love and

let love

spill out

into the world around you.

 

Then your spiritual journey grows

until “nice”

just happens

because it is an important

and central part

of your life.

 

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If you need help raising your energy level,

or vibration, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information,

or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

 

Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day,

and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

 

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love
Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

 

 

Copyright © 2018 Linda L Young

 

 

Raise your standards…

Apr23

Raise your standards…

 

Raise your standards. Raise

your expectations. Raise your

minimums of what you will

allow into your life that does

not honor or respect you.

Be bold, push the boundaries,

and you will be rewarded.

~Brendon Burchard

 

 

Today’s Message – Raise your standards! Keep them high! When we have higher standards for ourselves, we help bring them up for others. It’s amazing the affect we can have on those around us, simply by example.

~Healing Light

 

 

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When you raise your standards, others just fall away.

 

Those who choose to live at a lower vibration

just don’t jell with those who live in a higher standard or vibration.

 

If you are not part of the solution you are part of the problem.

 

Those who have a lot of problems

and continuously replay them – get more problems to replay.

It’s called the law of attraction.

You get more of what ever it is that you think about.

 

The more you keep your problem alive the more it will grow and attract more momentum.

 

Honor and respect yourself and others,

and you will attract those who

honor and respect you.

 

Live your best life by being the best you can be.

 

Be bold

and you will be rewarded for it.

 

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If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information,

or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love

Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

 

 

 

Copyright © 2018 Linda L Young

 

 

Free yourself…

Feb6

Free yourself…

 

“Free yourself from dysfunctional people who are experts at meeting their own needs at the expense of yours. Do not let people stay in your life who trample on your feelings or behave badly. Set clear boundaries so that you do not get caught up their maze of madness, or feel responsible for their life choices or consequences. Live in your own story. Do not try to edit someone else’s.”
— Les Brown —

 

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I grew up in a small town where everyone knew everyone else.

There was no hiding anything because it was such a small, close knit place.

 

School was just the same.  12 years with the same kids, all of us growing up together.

From crayons to perfume.

From playing at recess to assembling serious study groups.

 

Learning to set clear boundaries and expressing our own desires.

Experiencing and learning our life lessons. Figuring out how to become the young adults we wanted to be.

 

Growing and experimenting with what was around us without taking on everyone else’s problems.

New kids occasionally coming in to the school and some of the old ones leaving and moving away to another life.

After school everyone promised to stay in touch and never let our friendships get lost.

 

Unfortunately, life took over.

Finding a mate became important.

Getting married, planning and building a house became my life.

Choosing a career and going to college took any extra time we had left after that.

Having children and repeating the same process over again.

 

A world of our own.

Protecting what was important to us as a family.

 

Removing anyone who was dysfunctional and expert at meeting only their own needs.

Finding our own alignment where life was rich and full.

 

Living our own story

and not worrying about anyone else’s.

 

 

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If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration, or are interested in learning more about creative writing, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information, or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love

Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

 

 

 

Copyright © 2018 Linda L Young

Set boundaries…

Aug22

Set boundaries…

Love yourself enough to set

boundaries.  Your time and energy

are precious.  You get to choose

how to use it.  You teach people

how to treat you by deciding what

you will and won’t accept .

 

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This may be hard to believe when you first read it, but after careful consideration, you can see how true it really is.

If you don’t have boundaries and continue to set new boundaries from time to time, you will find people just running all over you and intruding into your personal time and energy.

Your life may become convenient to others for such things as regular babysitting, running errands, and picking up groceries for them.

You may also be counted on for regular or occasional financial support, by means of making you feel guilty from someone who has less than you, or even by a relative who doesn’t want to support him/her self.

Some people have no conscious when it comes to asking for help.  They just take the easy way out.

If you don’t have strong boundaries established, you may find yourself as their favorite target.

Giving more of your own time, money, and effort than you had planned, cutting your own self or family short.

In fact, you may come to the place where you feel used and taken advantage of before you get serious about setting boundaries, or realize that you are being counted on more than you like.

So when you do come to the point of realization, you can start by setting a limit on the amount of time, money and effort you are giving out.  You can either cut these things out abruptly or gradually lessen your continued support to “others”.

It may be hard to say “NO” at first, but the more you practice it, the easier it becomes, especially when you start finding the rewards of having more time, more money, and more energy for yourself and your family.

Love yourself enough to set boundaries.  You get to choose…

 

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If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration, or are interested in learning more about creative writing, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information, or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love

Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

 

 

 

Copyright © 2017 Linda L Young

New me…

Aug7

New me…

There is a “new me” emerging.

I am still gentle, kind,

loving and caring,

but the new me is

not afraid to set

boundaries and

speak up for herself

when people break them.

 

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I have recently experienced this dilemma of speaking up for myself rather than being charged double the price that was first quoted on a product from a local company.

I wonder how I attracted such rouge behavior from a business that advertises customer care and satisfaction, and yet, here it is.

I could take the road of least resistance and just ignore the ongoing charges.

Or I can rally some help and counter the outrageous request.

 

In fact, if I don’t do something, I’m liable to end up with a charge from a collection agency.

All because I was trying to be supportive of a local company and trust that they would keep their word and deliver the product I ordered at the price quoted.

They installed a much lesser quality product and added several other items that I didn’t even know about until I got the bill.

This has been a nightmare for me, and I have no doubt wasted numerous hours and days trying to figure out the best solution for both of us, while they just keep adding interest and other charges.

Thus “forcing” me to stand up for myself and confront the company.

I am definitely becoming a new me.

Life is bringing it on.

 

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If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration, or are interested in learning more about creative writing, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information, or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love

Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

 

 

 

Copyright © 2017 Linda L Young

Love yourself…

May26

Love yourself…

 

Love yourself enough to set

boundaries.  Your time and energy

are precious.  You get to choose

how you use it.  You teach people

how to treat you by deciding what

you will and won’t accept.

~Anna Taylor

 

If you need help raising your energy level, or vibration, or are interested in learning more about creative writing, contact me at “Linda L Young.com” for more information, or for ongoing, upcoming events and classes.

Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

Do what you LOVE.
Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love

Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

 

Copyright © 2017 Linda L Young