The hardest part of healing…

I believe the hardest part of healing after you’ve lost someone you love, is to recover the “you” that went away with “them.” ~Kelly’s Treehouse


This is so true and even if you have only lost the person in divorce, or a relationship break up, there is a great loss of yourself.

All the time you spent loving that person and becoming a part of their family that now is completely over. For a time you are probably the enemy in fact. While court proceedings continue and they are dividing up the assets, the children, and the pets.

There is discord and animosity where there once was love and caring.

You pour your heart into a person and everything they hope for. You do your very best to support them in any way you can. You are enmeshed in the deepest ways possible. Physically, mentally, and spiritually.

But no matter how much you care, it doesn’t make them “care” back.

They are at a destructive phase in their life and you are just a pawn in their ongoing plan.

And then one day it is just over.

Too much water under the bridge, so they say.

They move on and just leave you in the dust.

How do you recover from that?

So now the disbelief begins. The “say what?” flourishes for a while.

It’s called denial.

You can’t believe that someone you loved with all your heart could just betray you like that.

But they did.

They just blasted your little heart into a million pieces and left you shattered and broken.

Or if someone you love died, it may feel even worse.

Mainly because death is so final.

There’s no way to go back and have that one more conversation to apologize or set things straight. To say the things you really wanted to say.

But eventually healing begins. You recreate your new life with out them in it. You may have spent many years with this person.

And that is the hardest part, recovering the parts of “you” that feel lost, and emerging them with those other parts that still remain.

Untwisting the dreams filled with endless memories where you were once closely, confidently connected, and inseparable, and now you are alone and on your own.

Realigning your core beliefs.

Realizing that you still exist in your own rite.

That life does go on.

Healing a little bit more every day

because you are still a strong, loving, wonderful person

even without them

in your life.


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Remember to Live life to the fullest – Every day, and be compassionate to everyone, including yourself!

Do what you LOVE.

Be happy,
and keep doing the things that make you happy!

Live – Laugh – Love

Leave the past in the past and enjoy the day you have right now…

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